Fisting and Everything You Should Know About Fisting

It makes sense that some people might get uncomfortable with the idea of sticking fisting and large objects in their anuses or vaginas. It might be frightening to consider inserting a large penis, dildo, or even your entire fist inside of yourself. It’s terrible that fisting in particular appears to be surrounded by a special type of taboo; more individuals who would be interested the sex activity might enjoy it. There’s no need to let fear or sexism prevent you from trying out fisting if the concept appeals to you. All you have to do is find out exactly what it involves and how to get ready for it. (Hint: There’s a lot of lubrication involved.)

To dispel any remaining misunderstandings, fisting is the act of inserting one’s whole hand into an opening. Although it’s frequently connected to the vagina, it may also be used on anuses (albeit a lot more lubricant and preparation are needed). According to Liz Powell, PsyD, a professional psychologist, sex educator, and coach who supports the LGBTQ community, “firsting tends to be viewed as a more extreme sexual practice by some, but can be common in other communities.” Additionally, although fisting is often accepted in LGBT groups, sex positive people prefer not to judge it.

Why is fisting so popular?

Fisting may be really satisfying when done correctly. According to Dr. Powell, fasting provides an unmatched sense of fullness. You can stimulate far more tissue at once when your entire hand is within a hole.” In addition, she notes that many people find psychological comfort in the feeling of being “stretched open.” Furthermore, fisting may be a very private moment shared by both lovers. “Seeing your whole hand inside of your partner, and feeling the heat and strength of their body from the inside, is something many people enjoy,” adds Dr. Powell. “This is a form of penetration that allows for eye contact if wanted, and which allows the giver to be fully present in the receiver’s pleasure.”

Why does it frighten certain people?

Regrettably, society has taught a lot of individuals that if you put too much—or too big of—into your vagina, it might expand and become loose. This has contributed to the sex negative, sexist idea of “loose women” (a.k.a. “women who are easy and have sex often,” as Urban Dictionary put it). The good news is that this problematic conclusion is not only untrue, but also based on a myth: an Ob/Gyn featured by Glamour magazine stated that vaginal tissue is intended to expand and return to its normal shape and size (mostly) since it is created to assist in birthing.

You may like fisting, and your vagina should recover quickly, as long as you’re aware of your body, prepare properly, and use adequate lubricant. What about the sexism and sex negativity that support the prejudice against fisting? It will probably take some time to correct, but studies indicate that society is progressively allowing a greater variety of sexual conduct, so take that with a grain of salt.

How can I go about giving it a try?

Patience, practice, communication, and—yes—plenty of lubricant are all necessary for safe fisting. “No matter your gender or the hole you’re fisting, be sure to go slower than you think you need to, and use more lube than you think you need,” adds Dr. Powell. Water-based lubes can be sticky, so she adds heavier silicone-based lubes usually work best. Fisting may also be made simpler by wearing latex gloves (black ones can be especially seductive), since they keep the lubricant from seeping into the skin of the fister’s hand and facilitate a smoother fisting experience.

Try fisting with one finger at first and work your way up if you and your partner are interested in doing so. According to Dr. Powell, it might be beneficial for the recipient partner to inhale deeply throughout the fisting process. Take a step back and pause if the receiving partner feels uncomfortable at any stage. You can start fisting by having the giving partner make a “duck shape” with their fingers—that is, straight fingers put together, like a duck’s beak—and then slide the hand in after warming up the orifice with one finger at a time. If the orifice is willing and able, they can make a true fist with their hand (by shutting the “duck’s mouth”) and thrust the hand in and out more quickly. They should move carefully and in time with the receiving partner’s breathing. Once more, be in constant communication to ensure your comfort levels are met.

According to Dr. Powell, extracting the fist entirely might be more difficult than the original implantation. During the fist removal, she recommends coughing instead than inhaling deeply. “This will cause the muscles to help push the fist out of their body,” she explains. “Removal is the time that is most likely to injure the fistee, so coughing helps their body work with you, rather than against you.”

Everything is doable with enough love and lubrication, including putting your entire hand inside your vagina without damaging it.

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